In the beginning phases of recovery, social gatherings that aren’t substance free are simply avoided to support the growth of the individual who’s trying to recover. However, as time goes on attending social events that involve drinking may become more manageable. If you believe that you or your loved one is ready to be in that type of environment then congratulations are in order! Having a night out with social time can be fulfilling, despite not joining in on the drinking. One thing we have noticed is some common occurrences when those recovering from addiction emerge back into the scene. Hopefully, this blog can provide and inspire some ideas for those who are taking the next step in their recovery journey and avoiding alcohol use at social events.
Partner in Crime
Well not really in crime, kinda the opposite. When going to an event it’s best to bring a friend who’s going to be sober with you, just to balance things out a little. It may not seem like a big deal but let’s say 50 people are making a toast, it will help to know you’re not the only one not drinking alcohol. Your friend can also help keep you accountable if need be.
Keep Your Hands Busy
No need to have an alcoholic beverage but having a regular drink can help. When you get to your destination, go to the bar first and grab your own beverage. This can stop the waiter/waitress from offering you something alcoholic. Even if it’s orange juice, having a drink in your hand can ease the subconscious tension when being in an environment where everyone is drinking.
Team Up
You can make acquaintances with the server and or bartender and inform them that you don’t drink. You can also inform someone you trust in the group. This can help you stay accountable and avoid alcohol use at social events.
Plan Ahead
Too much alcohol can make people behave irrationally and irresponsibly. If you notice someone following a pattern as such, it’s best for you to get out of that situation and leave right away. Or maybe you’ve decided that you’re not comfortable at this event and you just want to leave. Having a reason prepared beforehand might serve you if the event takes a turn for the worst.
If Confronted
There could be people you run into that may apply pressure for an alcoholic beverage. Maybe they haven’t seen you in a while and want to buy you a drink but you don’t feel comfortable telling them the truth, which is 100% fine (you determine your boundaries). Instead here’s a list of things you could say to avoid accepting an alcoholic beverage:
- You’ve developed an allergy to alcohol
- You’re on medications that can’t be mixed with alcohol
- You’ve already had enough to drink
- You can say no thank you and leave it at that.
When there is a will, there is a way! Hopefully, some of these ideas will help navigate the social scene when operating in the most tempting environments. If you are looking to learn more about ways to receive support during recovery, reach out to someone on our team who will be happy to help.